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ASK DOROTHY:

I'm a divorcee and haven't been in a relationship for eight years.About two years ago I met an amazing man,also a divorcee,who lives with his ex and the kids.For the past two years,he's been telling me how he's making plans to move in with me and start a new family.But I'm starting not to believe in him anymore.Things are still the same and I don't see him making a move on anything.I know we both comes from hurtful past and he wants to take it slow,but I'm running out of patience.Please help.



I think you will find that man you've been seeing is either still involve with his 'ex' or still very much married to her.Even if he is 'dívorced' from her as he claims to be,he has no space for a new family,since he already has one,complete with a home he shares with a wife figure and their children.
I will offer you the same advice I do to any woman waiting for a man to treat her with care and respect,and that is to just leave him alone.Walk away from his foot dragging,lack of direction and action,and confusion.Two years isn't taking it slow,it's simply a painstaking crawl down a love cul-de-sac.
Any one who truly wants to be with you will make every effort they can to be with you.Do not make excuses for him or put your needs on hold in an attempt to accommodate him or his family.Cut ties immediately and give yourself a chance to meet someone who deserves your time and love -

and can reciprocate these 100%.





Dorothy Black is a sex
journalist and 
educator.